“Oh, no! Hold up, John. Not Tonight. May be another.” Have you ever knocked the hot atmosphere senseless with that hiss of an impenetrable tower of Victoria’s Secret? Sex may be a foreground for all the couples that you know, but should exactly what ‘additional’ couples’ requirement for your cherry send you to a guilt trip if you don’t want to rub the mattress with your significant other? Sure you want sex, but don’t wish to let the pleasure fortress available for entrance just yet for whatever reasons. Can not say no without gritting your teeth? What are we for if not for assistance?
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Inform him Sweet and Polite
That is your secret to melting him in a jiffy. Sex is certainly not a driveway to drive into without anyone’s consent. Tell him how you do not want to become a chunk to his chain already and consequently, need time to get the ‘s’ of gender stirring. If he doesn’t listen to you, but keeps pushing it right after the first two dates, then he is simply not so much into you but also the Dragon’s Lair.
Create your Stage
If you are stuck between the dragon and the sea, then it is time to get straight to the point without chocolate chin-wagging. Care about how assertive or unpleasant it might appear, because you know you don’t wish to do it tonight (or the next couples of nighttime). Tell him you do not want to maintain a relationship with someone who just wouldn’t respect your views.
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Are you protecting your abstinence enough?
So long as you are not prepared to kindle twirling your body against his, you have to give voice to a defending views no matter how ridiculous they might seem. Below are a few examples.
“By having sex, I’d be risking STDs. I really don’t want that.” Tell him how common STDs are than what may meet with the eye. When he tells you he’s not an HIV victim, don’t be surprised. Consider him to become another dumb from the pool of those who think HIV is the only STD. Perhaps you could shower details concerning gonorrhoea, genital herpes, etc.. This may as well throw off him from thinking about sex at least before the next date.
[Read: Ways to Build Trust in your Relationship]
“I do not want to wind up like 16 and Pregnant.” When he tries to talk you into using protection, tell him pregnancy remains a sensible outcome and that you don’t wish to get yourself into the “mommy” gentile only yet.
Sex does not actually have a right time. What one believes about sex is shaped by what the society he/she lives in thinks of it. Whatever be the cause of you to prevent bedding your boyfriend, it will always be best to understand him first.
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